​Don’t do it. Words of wisdom I should have listened to myself – but my brain cells have been seriously depleted due to my attempts to drink my way through this unfortunate and epic time, so I traveled.
San Diego to Boston. Two flights and probably 10 years taken off my life from the stress of it all.
It began with a rough 6am wake up call after a night of hydrating with bottled wine and solving the worlds problems with Leah.  Next was an even rougher ride to the airport with my bf who I had been fighting with for 2 days and was leaving indefinitely to head east– a solid and silent start.
On the positive side, no traffic, no crowds, security smooth and the shops were open – I do some of my best shopping in airports and I was not disappointed, scarves, lotions and hats secured. My wine haze was still with me but I refrained from getting a tea for fear I’d have to pee mid-flight, actually this truth is that the Starbucks line was too long.
Then I heard my name announced on the speaker and as I walked to the gate I was thinking I was going to be offered $1,000 to be bumped from the flight and I would take it and go back to my bf and be nice and fly first class another day…no – I had dropped my wallet and a good Samaritan handed it in – with everything in it. Thank you kind person.
Alrighty. I pulled myself together and got on the plane. All was looking good, really good, middle seat empty, plane not crowded, everyone in masks - but ever so subtly people kept coming down the aisle – and not just people, 2 dogs and 10 babies. I was texting my sister describing the scene to which she kept asking, “Who travels with babies during a pandemic?”, I didn’t want to find out. I usually love sitting next to babies, great distractions when flying, but I prayed no mask-less baby stopped in my row.  My nerves were getting fried with each new person walking down the aisle. When this poor woman in a state-of-the-art multi-filtered mask came to take the middle seat next to me I mindlessly asked, “What happened to the empty middle seats?” She didn’t speak, she didn’t touch anything, and she didn’t move for 2 and a half hours, and I mean did not move, it was impressive.
We all deplaned in Dallas where I ran to pee which stressed me out because I was planning on not peeing all the way across country and I got so flustered I managed to get on the tram heading in the wrong direction. This brought back PTS from a childhood trip to Disney World when I urgently needed the bathroom and we got on the wrong monorail. That didn’t end so well. I did make it to the gate in time – but … I had lost my boarding pass and had to get in a line to get a reissued one.
This flight was also choker block full however miraculously the one seat open was the middle seat next to me and a hipster dressed in camouflage, which for whatever reason I found comforting. As I was positioning my bags and tennis racket, the stewardess appeared and questioned “Prudence Horne?” – again, I am thinking $1,000 and first class! No, she handed me my passport. Thank you to another kind person.
I like to think of myself as a seasoned traveler…not so much during a pandemic.

Boston was a welcomed sight.

 
 
 
 
 
 

My art opening cancelled, ​Tom Brady leaving New England, standing in line outside Trader Joe’s only to discover that they were sold out of boxed wine, having to learn how to teach online – the stress broke me. I went to Leah’s house where we sat 6ft apart in the fresh air in her back yard and tried to solve all the problems in the world and drank all the wine in San Diego, yup, impressive.
A shout out to Lyft drive for safely depositing me at my door.
This morning I walked the 4 miles to retrieve my car; this is when I made the colossal mistake of turning on the radio – I didn’t throw up from a hangover but I gaged and nearly barfed when I heard donald’s voice.
Now I am on radio silence.

​I lost my pencil in prison. Granted it was my first day – I was SO nervous.
I had never been to a prison before, I had never thought about going to prison, suffice it to say prison was not on my radar. Yet, there I was, in prison with no pencil.
Richard J Donovan State Prison.  A men’s high security correctional facility.
I was a new employee of Project Paint (a non-profit which brings art to prisoners).
After passing a background check, my first task was to attend four hours of paid prison training. On a sunny Saturday morning, instead of heading to the tennis courts in La Jolla, I drove south to the border then banged a hard left and drove to the middle of nowhere.  When I first spotted the facility, it looked like an oasis on the horizon, the mountains glowed in the background, it was pretty.
I am going to cut to the chase, prison training was a huge disappointment. Of the fifty people who slowly filtered into the room roughly 45 of them were men, most of whom were carrying bibles. I am going to be generous when I say that the training went for about an hour, an hour and a half if you include the welcomed donut break. What did I learn? What were the skills and knowledge I acquired?  Well, there was one lesson, one message repeated over and over again – and that was - do not have sex with the prisoners.
Every time this was repeated, I couldn’t help myself, my head would whip around scanning the room to see if this was some sort of inside prison joke and then looking to see if anyone else was as shocked as I was – no – no one reacted. Apparently, this is a problem. And then I started wondering which bible carrying person was having sex with a prisoner.
A few days later I was back to teach my first weekly drawing class. As I approached the area this time around there was no glowing aura or oasis. My working partner and I went through 3 check points, a large dark empty space of land, and huge gates until we arrived at the yard where we waited for guards who were to let us into the gym where the class was to be held. Throughout this rather unnerving journey of getting into the inside of a high security men’s prison, I kept looking around wondering where the bible carrying people were having sex.
Most prisons are numbered 1 to 4. 1 being the lowest level of security, 4 the highest. I was in a level 3. On my first night in the yard, a man in prison blues approached, introduced himself and tried to shake my hand – I froze and was unable to speak. My partner spoke up and said “No touching”. He backed away, pointed at me and casually said, “newbie”.  If being scared as hell in a desolate wasteland of wandering unknown men in blue meant that I was a newbie, then yes, he would be correct. He walked away and we walked to the gym.
The gym is a large dark, drafty, dreary and empty room with the exception of exposed urinals against the side wall. The guards unlocked the gym and the cabinet where the art supplies are kept and then they left. The prisoners, my students, came in and set up tables and chairs. Before I knew it, I was sitting ever so silently and small in front of 25 men wearing blue staring at me.
My partner went about her business of checking in the students, collecting id cards, and keeping track of everyone and everything. She bustled about with ease, chit chatting, and checking out the supplies - every pencil and ruler is numbered, every eraser is accounted for because heaven forbid someone instigates an escape with a one inch rubber eraser… I sat there. She checked out my supplies and handed me a numbered pencil and a piece of paper since I was actually supposed to teach the class and I was slated to give a drawing demonstration.
She gave me an incredibly enthusiastic introduction – what she failed to notice was that I was in a catatonic state. After an eternity, and I can say that time in prison is an eternity, I stood up and slowly started rambling and giving away way too much private information about myself – I was getting strange looks from quite honestly some scary looking dudes with impressive facial tattoos, so I picked up speed and was speed rambling, I told them about my mother’s dog Reggie and my love for Tom Brady and that I like box wine.  In an attempt to slow down this train wreck my partner stepped in and suggested I give the demo. Good idea. I had my paper but I couldn’t quite put my finger on my pencil. Surely it was in on me somewhere, in one of my pockets. I had four layers of black on, black pants, black shirt, black sweater, black jacket…In front of 25 prisoners I started feeling myself up and down and all over while still maintaining a constant flood of words. Now the prisoners were in shock. And then I saw it…right in front of me….one of the guys had his hand cupped on the table. I looked at him and softly chirped, “You have my pencil.” He might as well of flipped me off, instead he smirked and said, “I was holding it for you.”
So began my first class.
A class soon after, I got into the gym without incident and was getting supplies when I notice a half-naked man in a cage.  A man in a cage. Obviously during my first class and my heightened state of extreme fear, I failed to notice the two telephone booth size cages which I learned were used for men who were not being good prison citizens. They were held in a cage until they were moved no doubt to another cage. The only other time I have seen a live person in a cage was in the 90’s in a trendy bar in Greenwich Village – there, two hot, bikini clad female go-go dancers were in cages hanging down from the ceiling over the bar and gyrating to Baby D’s Let Me Be Your Fantasy - it was sexy as hell. But there was no imaging sex in this cage in the gym. I whisper to my partner, “Hey, there is a scantily dressed man in a cage.” She shrugged and said, “Ya, that happens sometimes”. So I quickly weighed my options, stay in the gym with the naked caged man or stand-alone out in the dreaded yard and wait for the guards to come to remove the man - the yard was a known entity to me, the man in the cage, not so much, I chose the yard.  
For weeks and weeks, after each class, I drove home in tears. I would weep and weep. I was a mess.  Everyone asked - “hey how’s the job going?” and my standard answer was, “It’s daunting on all levels.”  The fact was that I couldn’t wrap my head around any of it. We were not allowed to trust a person with a pencil sharpener. I cried for how we treat human beings, I cried for the crimes they committed, I cried for the victims, I cried for everyone’s families, I cried for humanity.
My mom kept urging me to quit, just stop – but I kept showing up. As for their art, there was a wide discrepancy of ability – some students had never drawn before, and some were accomplished artists. I encouraged them to really personalize their work - this backfired a few times – one student drew disturbingly over sexualized drawings of nude women in war-zone settings and he was a little too eager to see my reactions to his creations. He creeped me out, but I kept my game face and would give him inane compositional suggestions. I never asked, but yes, many told me their stories – not surprisingly the major themes were youth, gangs, drugs and bad decisions.  One particular assignment I gave was to draw “the landscape of my life” – this was a heart breaker. A baby faced student divided his paper in two halves, on the right half he drew his childhood home, toys on the yard, his dog sitting on the front steps, and his four family looking out the windows – on the left-hand side he drew a very small tomb stone with only his name on it, sitting alone in a vacant space. When I asked about his drawing, he looked at me in a kind of pleadingly way and said, “I was just in the car; I didn’t pull trigger.”
I am now at a second prison, Centinela - a 2 hour drive straight down the 8 to scenic Imperial Valley. Shockingly, this prison is more intense than Donovan. Centinela is gang driven and gang controlled and these gansters are my new level 4 students
People ask me, “Do you feel safe?” – At Donovan yes, Centinela, hmmm, “sort of”. Some of these men I would invite over for dinner – ok maybe not dinner but I would sit down to a tea – in a very public space like a crowded Starbucks - and others – there are a few I never want to see leave an enclosed space.
Inevitably the students ask me to be their advocate, to help them try to get a new sentence or trial. I say no pretty fast but I do tell them that I am there to help them become the best artist they can be so that they can have their own voice and to be their own advocate.
I have now been teaching at men’s correctional facilities for over two years. I still weep for all involved and I still get flustered and lose pencils.

​To the Haters
My love for Tom Brady has no bounds.
I am not alone in loving this piece of perfection – “R Tommy” (our Tommy for you non-New Englanders), unites “my people”.  When I am east it warms my heart to see grown men wearing #12 shirts in the grocery store, and it is exhilarating to hear the screaming passion for this phenomenon on Boston talk radio – he brings us together. I am a New Englander through and through and I would seriously consider moving back to Boston to be with my fellow fans if it weren’t for snow, ice and freezing temperatures...but I am one with Tommy lovers everywhere.
I could go on and on and on about his skills, his RINGS, and how he is the poster child for devotion, passion, and commitment - but let’s cut to the chase, Tom is beautiful. Honestly, New Englanders could care less if he was hot or not – trust me, the irony is not lost that we have one of the most beautiful men on the planet as our QB - in southern Cal where I live, people care about that sort of thing, New England not so much…. but we got him and he is stunning and this is yet another reason I love him so…and love is joyous!
I love our team; they have and will continue to serve us well. Even though this season didn’t go exactly according to plan, the love is still there. There is love for the many, many earnest young men who kicked the heck out of that ball, and for the buff-built-like-brick-house-heroes who sacrificed their bodies to give Tom an extra second in the pocket, and for the players who dove head first into a wall of men as they tried to bring that ball over the end zone. There is love for our grumpy coach who takes scissors to really expensive clothing and of course to our owner who loves love - hopefully legally.
So, haters – take your deflate gate conspiracy theories, take your cries of “cheaters”, take your jealously over his Hollywood hair, his supermodel wife, and stow it. As my wise little friend Lucy wrote, “Love is love”, nothing can dent that armor. 

​Drive-by-pick up
Next on the agenda was Orland, an island off the east coast of Sweden. This would be my third trip to Orland, the adventures there started thirty years ago when my great friends Lena and Joakim invited me to one of their family’s summer homes.  To get to Orland is easy, a scenic bus ride from any major point will drop you off at various points on the island. I was fully prepared to use public transportation but my other great friends, Anna and Matts, had other plans; they told me that they would pick me up and we would go together to Orland – they would do a drive-by. This was no ordinary drive-by, this was one for the ages, it was heroic. Anna, Matts and their son Jakob, began in Stockholm – they swung by Ystad 390 miles and seven hours later to pick me up from Catarina’s, then we drove 180 miles and arrived four hours later in Orland. They did this all in one day! We arrived in Orland and were welcomed to a beautiful evening with drinks and dinner outside. My traveling companions spent the night and then got back in the car to drive 270 miles, a mere five hours, back to Stockholm. Unreal. I stayed in Orland for a week, details to follow, and then I took a bus to Stockholm to hang with my favorite road trippers, details to follow, but I am still in awe of their efforts and their unending hospitality….well, that goes for every person on my epic summer adventure. I am still in awe.

How it came to be ~
I don’t walk into situations blind; I do my homework. I knew who the four panel members would be – liberal lawyers.
I sat at a table looking at these women and instantly thought “they could all be my friends”. There they were, set up to interview people who applied for grant money from the William Male Foundation. They were there to pay it forward – to enrich other people’s lives, and to honor a man who had devoted his life to the arts.
The first question asked was, “Tell us about teaching at Donovan” – I looked at them and thought I was going to cry, they cared.
For the first time in I don’t know how long, I felt valued. I felt heard. I felt special. They were looking at me with interest, and not a passing by interest, genuine interest. I didn’t feel like a failure for not having “enough”, for not being big enough, for all of those “enoughs”. My words were being heard. We talked about humanity, art, travel, the type of person Bill Male was and how he contributed to the arts. I walked out of the room knowing that no matter what the outcome from this meeting, there were people out there who cared. For that I will be forever grateful.
I applied for this grant money with the intention of taking a break, taking a time-out and refueling. I needed to be thrown a bone. I was beaten up, exhausted on every level, and losing a bit of myself. I was asking for money to go to Europe, to look at art, to do some art, and to party with my friends.
Shortly after this interview I was handed a check – trip on!!
Immediately I reached out to friends to see who would be around and more importantly who would like a guest. Ystad, Orland, Stockholm, London – all secured.  The plan was to stay with as many friends as possible and say yes to every invitation offered.
I booked a one-way ticket and landed in Copenhagen June 21st – just in time to cross the bridge/tunnel to Ystad, Sweden for the midsummer celebration with a bunch of impressive academics.  Party party party  - songs, drinks, food (thankfully not all pickled herring), laughter and light. The sun barely set which was perfect for jetlag, the answer was simply not to sleep. I spent a week biking and sketching around Wallander country; I toured the Viking ruins Ales Stenar, walked the fields and beaches, watched the women’s world cup soccer games, hung out with Catarina’s lively and wonderful family and friends, sat in the courtyard looking at the cherry tree and contemplated life.
From there I trained it to Copenhagen with the intention of spending one night but was so enthralled I ended up staying for three days. My first stop was the Louisiana Museum, a 30 min train ride out of the city to this gem. Honestly, I was a tad bit sick, summer cold, and a bit tired from the party party party; I was lagging when I got there and started looking for a space on the grassy courtyard to collapse. As I willed myself to see some art before I napped, the gods smiled on me - the first exhibition was literally an installation piece which consisted of twenty beds, with lovely, soft pillows, in a dark room, and a video on the ceiling…not kidding, I had found my mecca! I crawled onto a bed and when I was not sleeping, gave my full attention to the video. I did go see all the other great art as well, but I kept returning to various beds as I got even more acquainted with the ceiling art, it was brilliant! 
After the museum, I trained it back to the city to find a hotel which proved a bit of a challenge since it was after 6pm, the tourist offices were closed, and I don’t speak Danish. The wifi in the country was suspect but on the trains it was awesome; I enlisted a teenager sitting across from me to help me find a hotel – actually more like a dorm room - which I could afford.  I was set. From there I walked the city and explored. One adventure was locating a graffiti art show at an old factory building in the “dodgy” part of town. I was directed by two self-confessed crackheads who eventually gave up trying to explain anything as they pantomimed that they were too cracked out to think straight; got to appreciate their effort. I did find the gallery, they were actually sitting next door to it, and it was the cleanest, most sterile photographs of graffiti I have ever seen - some of the pieces were framed. It didn’t seem real to me and this was the only art that bored me. I left quickly and kept an eye out for the gritty, more interesting people of Copenhagen, but they were nowhere to be seen.  
I headed back to Ystad. Next up - road trip to Orland.

​Epic Summer 2019
Part 1 - June
Get on the plane, get on the plane – my mantra. After a brutal spring semester of learning and teaching Prehistoric Art to Early Renaissance, two other lectures, and Poetry and Painting at Donovan State Prison, I was a complete mess. Add on an unexpected death of a soulmate and know that I was broken.
I got on the plane.
First stop Boston, MA where my mother was waiting for me as she recovered from her second major operation in six months. The plan was to get to Maine, to the island, to recuperate – however she wasn’t up for it. We sat in the cold and the rain in Boston and tried to be cheery. Not quite the epic start to my three-month adventure – but honestly breathing was an accomplishment for me at this time.
We finally made it north to open the house. The courts weren’t up and it was too cold to swim; the island was quiet. I slept a lot and tried to be still and to regain some sense sanity. We stayed a week. We played a lot of scrabble, talked about what we would do to the house, and then we both headed back to Boston.
Another day, another adventure, Michigan. I had a complete meltdown on the way to the airport and questioned if I should even go, I was too sad and didn’t want to be a downer. My mother told me to trust my friends – so I got on the plane. The fun began at Detroit National Airport where I landed for the annual T-5, now T-8, summit at Walloon Lake, Michigan. I had a two hour wait until a fellow TrinTrin pal landed and our hostess came to retrieve us – just enough time to slam down all the wine at the airport bar. I was a party unto myself and continued to hydrate with more wine at our stopover house where I vaguely remember a Bruins game, yes, I was a dream house guest. At 6am I forced myself up and crawled into a vehicle, which was larger than my studio, for our journey north. That effort exhausted me so I slept for the first hour. When I woke, I immediately began praying that I would not die from a hangover as I simultaneously willed myself not to throw-up for the next 3 hours. Jeanine and Donna wisely ignored me in the backseat.
Three diet Pepsi’s, a box of red vines and a bag of Ruffles later, we arrived at Walloon Lake – honestly, I am not sure where it is and I don’t think I could find it on a map, but it is a piece of paradise in northern Michigan. This was a reunion of eight great female college friends including a kickass hostess, two boats, a lake, nature, and a house the size of a Marriott Marquis, what was not to love! Jeanine dropped us off and went to retrieve the other 5 who dared the blue skies in a puddle jumper; I power napped and vowed never to drink again which lasted a good three hours until the mini greyhound SUV pulled into the driveway and the real party began.
It was magic. The moment we all came together, the second we were all in one space, the stars aligned and the universe lit up.  For six days we laughed, we sang and danced, we walked, ran, boated and floated, we ate, we drank. Those whose drink choice was LaCroix sparking waters were our “historians” in charge of remembering events; they were also in charge of driving the minibus when the weather didn’t allow us to motorboat to the club for dinner. Our days and nights were filled with music. DJJ had the perfect playlist and we were the envy of all the other boats on the lake – no doubt they thought we were the Go-Go’s reunited or at the very least Bruce Springsteen’s backup singers. We rocked it.
My heart was shattered going into this week. My friends gave me the gifts of laughter and love and my heart grew and I will forever be grateful. Next stop Europe!
 

​Double Whammy
Tough Monday – I was the victim of a burglary –the prison guards informed me that it was not a robbery because a gun was not involved. It happened at my studio - a quick trip to the bathroom, door unlocked, and some dickhead comes in and steals a bunch of stuff. Fortunately our paths didn’t cross. The dickhead wasted no time and within 10 minutes was using my credit cards at Ralph's, CVS and Home Depot. Ugh. I waited all day for the police to arrive but apparently they were having a tough Monday as well and my burglary was not top priority.
With a stiff upper lip I forged onto teaching the night class at the prison.
The deal at the prison is usually the guards are not so warm and fuzzy – I get the impression that they are not thrilled with our program of bringing the arts into prison – they are polite but never chatty.  Monday was a different deal.  At every check point I informed each guard that I was robbed! Rather burgled!  And now I was in prison! The irony of it all! I had their full attention. They were sympathetic, supportive, eager to offer advice and engaged.  For this I was thankful, because apparently for this job I signed a “non-negotiable” clause – I will sign anything, but damn, I would like to be negotiated for. Now at least the guards now know who I am and hopefully will keep an extra eye out for me.
When the class arrived and I told the students, the prisoners – who are robbers, murders, rapists - that I was the victim of a burglary. I told them how lucky I was not to have bumped into the dickhead because who knows what could have happened! They too were sympathetic, supportive, and eager to offer advice – go figure.
I then attempted to teach 3 point perspective, a tricky concept on the best of days, I was a bit distracted.
At the end of the cluster f@)*# of the dreaded 3 point perspective lesson, everyone was checking back in their pencils, erasers and rulers, when I noticed a pencil sharpener was missing. My ace supervisor Stephanie and I searched high and low and it was nowhere to be found. The guys searched – honestly – class is held in a barren gym - there are not a lot of places it would have gone. The guys were getting visibly upset and asking if we were going to report this and did we understand the consequences to them if we did report it – searches and lock down – a big deal. At this point the guards started to gather, first two and then word got out and there were 4.
I took center stage, “How could this be? Two burglaries in one day? Why am I still in prison?” The guards started sharing their stories while the students were trying not to have nervous breakdowns. Several guys came up to me with inside info as to who they suspected took the pencil sharpener. It was all out of my hands and I was too busy chatting.
Then, in the final minute, just before Lock Down was to be imposed, two students came busting back into the gym and slammed down the pencil sharpener. Before anyone could say anything they kept repeating, “We got it, we won’t snitch!”
My ace supervisor Stephanie looked wildly relieved; the paper work would have been in her court. Two guards inspected the   pencil sharpener to make sure the blade was still intact, case closed.
Finally I was out of prison.
As I was getting in my car the police finally called regarding my burglary. I told them I was driving home from prison – don’t know if they got the humor. I wish someone would show up at my door with my stolen goods - I wouldn’t snitch on them.

Last week I participated in the San Diego Art Fair. Normally I wouldn’t give this event the time of day mainly for the fact that it was drilled into me at Pratt not to “pay to play”; however, a booth was thrown our way for free and I was lucky to be in the company of five other fab women who had also been SD Art Prize recipients. At a pre-event happy hour the PR people made big promises while they worked hard to get artists to sign up for $3,000 to $7,000 booths, “You will be surrounded by quality people who want to purchase art. We only curate the best of the best to enter this show.” The snake oil sales pitch was not wildly impressive and they blatantly ignored my question about what specific galleries were participating but they did serve wine.
The weekend came and off we went to the Del Mar Fair Grounds for 4 days of art fun - 5 artists, one booth with hopes of selling some art.
We took turns manning the booth and tried to overlap with each other so that we had company. I brought my B+ game, along with a needed bottle of wine for me and Anna because the free wine tasting booth cut us off after two shots of rose, and I managed to hang there for my slotted times. I was much better at pushing my friends art, my sales pitch was spot on for them.  I was also excellent at leading people into the awesome Oslo Sardine Bar, although I did have a bit of PTS with flashbacks of childhood sardine sandwiches but I worked through that. The real problem was watching people walk on by, not a nod, not a comment.  I certainly walked by other peoples booths, a quick glance and a snap judgment and I was past it. Yet I couldn’t fathom people walking past ours - all the art we had in there - paintings, prints, sculptures, mobile art, cutouts  and an offering of peppermint patties and yet not a reaction from many – being ignore threw me.
Sure there were a handful of sales and many compliments, but it got me thinking about what I walk by.
Then I realized that I walk past people. I walk past people who live on the streets. I may nod, or not, but I walk past their worlds. I felt invisible in a booth; I have no concept of how these people feel on the street.  
I will do better.
Art Fair – great lessons learned – a great success!!

I vividly recall watching the Anita Hill hearings. I was glued to the TV.  I knew she was telling the truth. I remember looking at the committee and listening to their questions and it was obvious to me that they also knew she was telling the truth. My heart and a bit of me broke when they ignored her and put that disgrace of a man on the Supreme Court. I felt sucker punched and a seed of disgust towards those who are indifferent towards women was planted in my soul.
Kavanaugh, another predator who wouldn’t know the truth if it bit him in the butt, won his bid for the Supreme Court. His anger was rewarded.  Again, I felt broken.
Michelle encourages us to “go high when they go low” – but when hope is in the gutter that is no easy task.
Tough times, heavy on the heart.
A life-raft was thrown my way when a friend wisely stated, “Art is the answer.”
Back to work.